How embracing rejection will help you find the perfect job, partner, friends, etc.
First, let me just start by saying that I hate the word ‘perfect’, because it’s related to perfectionism, and after all, I AM a recovering perfectionist.
But, I don’t have another word to describe the ‘just right-ness’ you can and will find in your life if you learn to embrace rejection.
The one thing you need to know to get out of a ‘lazy rut.’
When you’re binge-watching Lovesick instead of spending time on a dating app or out to drinks with friends on Sunday night instead of meal prepping for the week (or whatever form of distraction you personally like to employ to mask your avoidance - mine’s 100% binge-watching bad tv shows), ask yourself this…..
How embracing that I suck 50% of the time helped me love myself 100% of the time
You will never be perfect, and you don’t need to be. Perfect isn’t what makes someone deserving of love. The quest for perfection is a quest to fill a deep hole of scarcity, of not-enough-ness. But you are enough, even (or especially) when you let yourself suck 50% of the time.
Our biggest barriers: the GAILs
As an iPEC Coach, much of my work is based on helping clients identify their “GAILs” (Gremlins, Assumptions, Interpretations and Limiting Beliefs) which are the underlying inner barriers to achieving your desired outcome in any focus area. GAILs are huge, and they are present daily in our lives. Often times, there are many GAILs overlapping at once. Defeating GAILs is an on-going battle, and it begins with awareness!
So I did. I sat there, and I let myself feel all of my fear. I completely surrendered to it. And what I found after a few minutes was that I had more energy. I wasn’t necessarily less scared (at first), but I was less tired. Then the new energy allowed me to take control and re-write the story.
One time during a yoga class, I felt flooded with guilt. Guilt that I had ended a long and meaningful relationship poorly, and had upset and angered so many people. I felt guilty for the pain I had caused, guilty for some of my choices and actions.
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